1. What are “Rapport” and “Report”?
- Rapport (Preferred by Women): Originating from the French word for “building a bridge,” the goal of this communication style is to establish “empathy” and “connection.”
- Report (Preferred by Men): This style focuses on delivering facts and information accurately. The primary objective is “problem-solving” and reaching a “conclusion.”
2. An Example of “Misalignment” in Married Life
- Wife: “I had such a hard day today… (seeking empathy).”
- Husband: “Well, you should do this to fix it (offering a report-style solution).”
- Wife’s Internal Monologue: “I don’t want advice; I just want you to say, ‘That must have been tough’…”
3. The “Magic Trick” for a Harmonious Relationship
- Advice for Husbands: When your wife starts talking, hold back on the solutions for a moment. Try to focus on Rapport by saying things like, “That sounds really hard” or “I understand.”
- Advice for Wives: When you want to ask your husband for something, try using a Report format. Instead of hoping he “senses” what you need, start with the “conclusion” to ensure your message is communicated smoothly.
Marriage is not the finish line; it is the start of a brand-new stage. In the video below, I share tips on how to keep nurturing “the happiness of two people” beyond the wedding.
#MarriageAdvice #RapportVsReport #RelationshipGoals #BeyondTheWedding #TheWayOfOlivia